Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Blog #8 -- Serendipitous Road Trips, Sunday drives, and chicken tales (tails?)

Revise, revise, revise.  OK.  I tried to write a draft, but mostly made Dr. Chandler confused about my focus, which, of course, wasn't really there.  Chickens and basket companies have some correlation, but only in my mind, I guess.  With that said, I think the best way to revise my road trip story is to focus more on the fact that I really like to take road trips, especially the ones that are serendipitous.  

I've loved to travel since I was young, remembering the Sunday afternoon drives my family used to make in Mom’s 1970-ish black Ford Country Squire station wagon with the fake wood panels on the side, my father at the wheel and Mom in the front seat with him, my two brothers in the middle seat, and with me sitting in the back-back, which was the third row seat and facing out the back window.  Nowadays that kind of car would never be made, and of course, this was in the day before seat belts too, but I digress.

Well, maybe I need to digress to do some revision.  I would think that I would add some stories about my love of car travel, perhaps reminiscing about my youth’s travels, then moving into my high school years of traveling with my friends’ families, and later as an adult.  I've been asked along on many journeys over the years, and I think in my revision, I’ll include some of the events of those trips.
   

One road trip I recall was sometime around 1976 when I took a last minute trip to New Haven, Connecticut, just to bring my friend’s friend back home, after he was visiting here and totaled his car while here.  I went along just to keep my friend company on the trip back to New Jersey, and while driving up along I-95 through New York City, there was a fist fight right there on the highway, in the middle of a traffic jam…perhaps it was the cause of the traffic jam.  Only in New York City would this have occurred, and it is still quite vivid in my mind.  Road rage to the extreme, I suppose.  I’m full of stories—maybe just full of IT—but memories of road trips abound, and, so, I guess I should focus on those memories in my revision, but tell a chicken tale (tail?) or two, since those trips were also serendipitous.

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Blog #7½--The search for Marven Gardens is over!


     Look what I found last Saturday!  My daughter, my friend Cindy, and I were doing the NJ Lighthouse Challenge, and after visiting the Absecon Lighthouse, we decided to go visit Lucy the Elephant in Margate.  Knowing that Marven Gardens was somewhere nearby, I asked the clerk in Lucy's gift shop if he knew how to get to Marven Gardens.  He got out a local map and showed me where it was located, then handed me the map, and off we went in search of Marven Gardens.
     We spent just a scant 20 minutes driving around Marven Gardens (we were on a tight schedule to get to the next lighthouse on the challenge tour) and decided that we couldn't possibly pick a favorite house.  All were just so magnificent and beautiful!  It really was quite a sight to see.  FYI:  currently at about a million dollars, more or slightly less, a home in Marven Gardens is no longer affordable to the middle class.
     Go visit when you get the chance.  Located on West Drive, between Fredricksburg Ave. and North Brunswick Ave., which basically run north/south, and Ventnor Ave. and Winchester Ave., which mostly run east/west, Marven Gardens is at the very edge where Margate City and Ventnor City meet.

Blog #7--Putting all of my eggs in one basket: an EGGciting weekend




            On the road again!  Oh, how I love road trips, especially when I go someplace exciting and new.  When my friend Mary asked me if I’d like to ride shotgun on the way to the National Poultry Show in Columbus, Ohio, I came out with a resounding YES!  Of course, I didn't know what I was getting into, but it sounded exciting, and I was happy to go with her, as we are kindred spirits with many similar, however some dissimilar, interests.  Chickens are Mary’s primary interest of late—raising chickens, watching chickens, telling chicken tales (tails?), giving talks about chickens at the local library, and showing chickens.  
            The National Poultry Show was set for a weekend in November, and I found myself getting really excited about going on this long—550 miles one way—trip to the Ohio State Fair Grounds.  We’d be driving it all in one day, with the requisite pit stops for gas, food, and bathroom breaks.  The event lasts for almost three full days, and Mary expected to be there for at least two of those days—the show part on Saturday—oohing and aahing at all of the birds—followed by the swap/sale between attendees and the awards part in the early afternoon on Sunday.  Friday evening was some kind of meet and greet thing that she’d rather avoid.  We’d be driving all day on Friday and really wouldn't have time to do whatever it was on Friday anyway.

            My first experience with live chickens began when Mary got her first six “girls” and gave each one a name.  She chose the seven brides' names from the Rogers and Hammerstein’s musical “Seven Brides for Seven Brothers.”  Well, she only got six hens and there were seven names—Milly, Dorcas, Ruth, Martha, Liza, Sarah, and Alice.  She had yet to get a hen to name Dorcas, since she wanted a specific breed of chicken and was waiting for that to happen.  
             Dorcas was reserved to be a Malay hen, the breed that one of Mary’s daughters chose.  A Malay chicken is a little bit strange looking in that it stands up tall versus the typical chicken that is always stooped, squatting and pecking near the ground.   A tall chicken—standing 24” to 30”—is quite a sight to see!  That’s almost the size of a one year old child!  Finding a Malay hen was not as easy as Mary anticipated, so Dorcas is yet to be.  In the meantime, the other six “girls” found happiness in Mary’s backyard, complete with a coop made from her daughters’ old playhouse, now retrofitted with roosts for sleeping, a caged-in chicken run for, well, running, scratching, and pecking, and the nesting boxes for all of those lovely and colorful eggs.  No, brown chickens don’t necessarily lay brown eggs.  No, a rooster isn't needed for a hen to lay an egg; a hen of egg-bearing age will lay approximately one egg a day for the duration of its laying lifetime. 

             Back in 2010 Mary and I had attended Chicken Stock, which is kind of like Woodstock, except the only music you hear is the sound of hens clucking, roosters crowing, geese honking, turkeys gobble-gobbling, and ducks quacking, etc., all under the same barn roof.  After all, chickens aren't the only kind of poultry that people are raising these days.  It was held at the private farm of a young couple in New Tripoli, Pennsylvania (near Kutztown).  The event was sponsored by BackYardChickens.com (BYC), an online forum devoted to the care and proliferation of chickens.  Mary’s been a member of BYC for quite some time.  The membership at BYC is currently over 280,000 now!  That’s a big flock of followers!
    We arrived at the farm (owned by Steph and Jason) on Friday evening.  It was a "by personal invitation only" evening, which Mary got from Steph.  We did the traditional meet and greet with everyone already there, most of whom Mary knew only by their screen names on BYC…they didn't really know Mary either!  We wandered around the farm yard for a while, getting to know the dogs and pet pot-bellied pig trailing behind us.  It looked like the pig thought it was a dog, so the pig did what the dogs did, or was it the other way around?  Hmm?  Steph had so many chickens that she kept separate coops—I think I counted 4 coops.  Among the chickens was a lone hen turkey, who decided to nest on top of a pile of chicken eggs.  She was an older hen turkey, and she probably was past her egg laying years and didn't have any chicks to call her own, so she must have been trying to hatch the little darlings.  She didn't know if the eggs were or weren't fertilized, but she was going to give it a try anyway.  After roaming around and introducing ourselves to the horse, the pony, and the goats in the corral, we wandered back to the house, where there was a full blown party happening, complete with Jason at the barbecue grill, cooking everything from ribs and steaks, to hot dogs and burgers, as well as grilled corn on the cob.  There were plenty of other vittles on the table brought by some of the other guests—I brought my “world famous” broccoli slaw, too.  Everything was yummy! 
   After we ate our fill, and while the groaning was going on, the fire pit was loaded with wood and lit to a blazing glory of warming flames, since the cold of the November  evening started to chill us.   It was getting very late and most of us couldn't keep our eyes open, so Mary and I skedaddled to our evening accommodations at a nearby campsite.  Mary isn't much of a camper, but she had reserved a one room cabin with 2 sets of bunk beds.  We were prepared and brought our sleeping bags to roll out on the bunk mattresses.  It was clean, very wooden and log cabin looking with a covered porch.  There was a separate building for the communal toilets and shower facilities.  At the evening meal with Jason and Steph, we met another BYC lady member who mentioned to us that she planned to sleep in her car for the weekend, so we offered to split the cost of the cabin with her, and she was all prepared with her own sleeping bag.  The cabin was a dry and reasonably comfortable place to lay our heads to try to sleep.   We was cozy for the night and out like a light.
   When Saturday morning arrived, the drizzle was steady and at times turned to a teaming rain, so it’s a good thing I brought my raincoat and a book to read.  Our initial plan to arrive back at the farm at 9 a.m. was daunted by the fact that the limited shower facility was being used by other campers, so we had to wait our turn until there was an available spot to get showered.  Breakfast consisted of what we packed in our coolers from home, and we ate that in the truck while we drove back to the farm.  As we approached the farm at around 9:30 a.m, it became apparent that there were lots of people at Chicken Stock, with their cars lining the street and in the farm's open areas.  The whole place was packed with several hundred BYC members and other folks who just loved a good poultry sale and swap meet.
This particular Chicken Stock event was even written up in Time Magazine’s “Postcard” section.  Mary was interviewed for the story, but her bit didn't make it into the article, though the mention of her bumper sticker did—“My Pet Makes Me Breakfast!”  Mary is so chicken crazy that even her license plate reads GTCHKNS (Got Chickens?).  A day doesn't go by when she doesn't hug and kiss her girls.  I draw the line at kissing a chicken; hugging is one thing, but not kissing.  Yuck!   

   At this stage of the game, Mary has about 3 dozen hens, in either standard or bantam size, and one bantam rooster named Armand.  Armand is quite spectacular in his own right.  His feathers are quite a few colors starting with his black face and neck, which looks like he’s got a ZZ Top kind of beard going down to his chest.  Then he’s got these long, thin feathers that cover his shoulders, sides, and part of his lower chest, which is mostly salmon in color.  The rest of his body is the wider feathers, blending from brown to black, mixing with the salmon colored feathers at the base of his tail.  The magnificent part of his appearance is the really tall tail feathers, which are brightly colored in a black/green iridescent pattern and standing high in a plume, as is traditional on a Faverolle rooster of the salmon variety. 
   The rest of Mary’s hens in the flock have names, which are usually appropriate to their particular breed.  For example, for one of the Brahmas—an Indian breed in her flock—she has given the name of Jasmine, taken from the Disney movie “Aladdin” as an Indian princess name.  Brahma chickens come in lots of colors, but Mary has the ones I like to refer to as the color of a Golden Retriever dog.  It’s that caramel color of other breeds of dogs, too, but looks especially nice on these chickens, which are fluffy and plump, and also have feathers on the legs, which resemble pantaloons.  It’s pretty funny to see a chicken with pants on its legs.  Most would expect to see the wrinkled-looking, lizard-like legs of a chicken, but not on the Brahmas.  Nope!  There are feathers instead; very cool to see.
   One of her chickens, which has the name I suggested, is a Speckled Sussex—a breed from England—named Daphne.   I took the name from Daphne Du Maurier, who was a famous writer from England, one which I’d read at some point in time, and who also had several of her books made into movies.  Perhaps you remember Alfred Hitchcock’s famous movie “The Birds”—a real creepy movie from 1963—Daphne Du Maurier wrote it!  
   Daphne seemed like a good name for an English girl.  Daphne, the chicken, has a really pretty feather pattern.  Heck, most of Mary’s girls are quite beautiful with the variations of color and pattern.  I find the feather patterns of chickens to be quite interesting and amazing.  I don’t know how Mary tells all of the similar breed girls apart, but somehow she does.  Daphne is mostly brown, with specks of black, white, and a little bit of blue.  The thing I like most about Daphne’s feather pattern is that it looks like she is wearing a lace apron around her mid-section from the lower part of her neck down to just before her tail feathers.  It’s just the cutest look, and all because of the way her feather pattern is arranged. 
          
             In 2011 Mary and I attended another Chicken Stock up in Onchiota, New York.  When she first asked me to attend, and when I asked her where it would be, she laughed when I told her that I knew exactly where Onchiota was, since my best friend since first grade lived in the town right next to it—Loon Lake.  There are two Loon Lakes in New York, but this one is about an hour from Lake Placid, 20 minutes from Saranac Lake, and about 45 minutes from Plattsburgh, all of which are way up in New York state and only about two hours from Montreal, Canada—basically in the middle of nowhere and very rural.  Great for people with livestock and, of course, chickens! 
   I called my friend and asked if we could stay for the weekend to attend this Chicken Stock event.  It was all arranged.  The weekend we went up was kind of rainy and drizzly, so we weren't surprised that it wasn't as well attended as the first Chicken Stock in Pennsylvania.  Of course, the location in the middle of nowhere didn't help either, since accommodations were few and far between out there in the woods. There were a few attendees who took advantage of the invitation to camp out on this farm, owned by Natalie, but with the seasons in this neck of the woods being June, July, and winter, having a Chicken Stock in October didn't help matters any.  So, those of us who attended had fun chatting, learning how to “process a chicken”—basically cutting off its head, watching it flap and jump around until its body finally realized it was dead, plunging it into boiling water to make the removal of the feathers easier, and then gutting it, saving the heart, liver, and gizzards for further useand eventually ended the evening with a campfire and a s’mores roast, albeit with wine and other libations to imbibe.
         
            We arrive 
at our hotel in Columbus, and it’s really late, since we left later than originally planned.  I was ready on time, but something unforeseen happened and Mary was delayed a bit—like 2 or 3 hours delayed.  Our trip across Interstate Route 80 was pretty much uneventful, and we spied a couple of quilt shop signs along the way—thanks to the shop owners for putting up those billboards—but we would just have to wait to visit those shops on our way home.   We were on a mission to attend the Ohio Nationals, as the National Poultry Show has come to be known, and nothing would deter us from getting there on time, barring any more unforeseen events. 
Saturday morning came early, since Mary had brought along six of her girls to be in the competition, and the rules stated that any competing chickens had to be “cooped in” by 9 a.m. so that the judges had time to view all of the entrants.  After getting to the show and cooping in the girls, we wander around the massive building, which houses approximately 40,000 birds.  The racket is deafening, to say the least; never mind the odor.  I spent about an hour roaming the aisles and quickly looking at various birds. Who knew that “show chickens” and poultry was such a big thing.  Here in New Jersey a poultry show may not be considered a big event, unless it’s a chicken eating contest, but out in the mid-western states, it seems to be the national pastime.
Mary gave me the keys to her pickup truck, and I headed off to the Longaberger basket company headquarters in the Dresden, Ohio, area, which is about 40 miles from the Fair Grounds.  I was excited to be going to Longaberger, as I had heard so much about it and own several Longaberger baskets.  Its main office building is in the shape of a basket.  It’s really exciting to see that 7 story building with the basket handle way up on top as it looms above the landscape when I round the bend in the highway.  I’m sure there have probably been some accidents in the vicinity if a driver isn't expecting to see that massive building and its unusual shape.
The interior of the building was decorated for Christmas, complete with a 6 story Christmas tree made from probably thousands of Longaberger baskets and greenery.  It was a very impressive sight.  Around the lobby were little vignettes set up as living rooms, dining rooms, and bed rooms, and a kitchen, and all had an ample number of Longaberger baskets in each room, put to good use holding magazines, napkins, fruit, and hair brush sets, etc.  It’s a retail company, so why shouldn't it show off what can be done with some of its baskets?
After visiting the main headquarters, I set off to see Longaberger Home, just a short drive from the main office.  It's the factory and a mini strip mall, where the baskets are made and sold.  Mary’s mother had given me some money for something Longaberger and asked me to get whatever that would buy.  I hunted around and found the perfect things, which I bought for myself, too.  I found a small rectangular basket and some Mason jars with the Longaberger logo embossed into the glass.  I had just enough money to buy her 2 jars and the basket.  
As I roamed the factory, I observed several people making the baskets, but with the aid of an experienced basket maker.  I really would have liked to do that myself, but it was a bit out of my price range, so I just watched for a while.  I was taking photos of one woman and a master craftsman, and for a moment the woman excused herself.  The craftsman asked if I’d like a photo of myself pretending to make a basket, so, what the heck!  I said, “Yes!!!”  I stepped up behind the basket the woman had worked on, and the craftsman took my camera, told me where to position my hands, and he photographed me in that pose.  It was fun and felt a little deceptive, but I didn't plan to share the photos with anyone, so it really didn't matter if I was really making that basket or not.
It was nearing dinner time and I needed to go back to pick up Mary, so I headed out to the truck and found my way back to the Fair Grounds.  Even though I’d never been to Ohio before this trip, I found that it was really easy to find my way around.  It helps that I’m really good with directions and maps and am extremely observant of landmarks.  When I got back to the Fair Grounds and eventually found Mary among the noise, she made sure her girls had feed and water before we went back to the hotel for a while before meeting up with some of her BYC friends for dinner at the Red Lobster.  It had been a very egg-citing day for both of us!  

Sunday, October 12, 2014

Blog #6--Pecking order: thoughts on my next essay

As much as I try to keep drama out of my life, there always seems to be more and more of it each day.  I guess it’s how I handle that drama that makes a difference to me.  Usually I am quite calm and reserved about things that happen.  I get my ire up once in a while, but it is often from the shenanigans of my daughter, who lives with me.  Grr. 

Grr is the sound my daughter and I make at each other if there is something we do to annoy one another.  Grr.  It’s a better sound than the foul language I hear every day from many people.  I abhor foul language.  I find that there is no place for it in civil conversation or in the written word.  I lived in a verbally abusive relationship for 24 years, and if I never hear any foul words again, I’d be extremely happy.

I’m rambling on and on about grring and my daughter because I had an aha moment to realize that my daughter, who is 28, doesn't use foul language around me.  Is it because I don’t use it around her, even though she has been exposed to it, but chooses not to use it, or is it just to appease me?  Hmm?  My son, who is 22 and lives with his father, doesn't use foul language around me either, for the most part, but I hear the F-bomb uttered when he gets annoyed at something or someone, though it is not directed at me…more like a mumbling under his breath kind of utterance.  It’s more of an everyday thing for him, but not my daughter.  I have friends who don’t use foul language either, but I have some that use it as readily as if it’s the first word out of their mouth in every sentence. 

This was one thing I thought of writing for my 2nd essay, but I had other thoughts too.  Yesterday I attended the memorial service for my best friend’s mother.  My best friend (since 1st grade) and I haven’t spoken to each other in over a year.  It all stems from the fact that I inquired about her oldest daughter, who has been estranged from the family for quite some time.  (I seem to be involved with a lot of friends who have some family dysfunctions and squabbles—it’s all drama!)  So, of course my aha moment came when I was thinking about my friend’s response to me about not being her friend, because I was trying to find information about her daughter.  I’m the girl’s godmother, appointed by my best friend, but she obviously doesn't care about her daughter anymore.  Just because she doesn't care, doesn't mean that I don’t.  I’m not the kind of person who takes kindly to someone telling me who I can associate with or not.  I don’t care if she is my best friend, I’m the godmother to her daughter, and I care!

All ranting aside, I had a few other thoughts about my next essay:
  • I remembered another job, so that makes 35 jobs I've had
  • My hobbies could be a source of inspiration, as I have so many hobbies—craft-a-holic crafty stuff like tole painting, needlework of many kinds, kayaking, photography, and more
  • Some of my collections could be of interest—signal cannons, wooden shoes, and miniature chairs/benches (not dollhouse size, but more like in the 6” and a little larger range) and how I acquired and/or got started collecting…I only have 3 cannons and don’t plan to get many more—the key words in that were PLAN and MANY
  • E-mail, and the social media of Twitter and Facebook are so prevalent today, and I frequently use all of those communication methods now, but at one point I had 25 pen pals at the same time…perhaps this is why I like to write, or the fact that I write very well—I still have ONE pen pal:  a friend who has had a brain injury and can’t sit to read at a computer screen for more than 2 or 3 minutes without having a seizure, so we still write letters to each other and send the letters via snail mail (she lives in Ohio).  My grandmother was my first pen pal...I still have some of the letters she sent to me, with her wonderful penmanship—she was a lefty
  • Age definitely has its privileges, but now I find myself in the next age bracket on all surveys I take.  There has to be something defining about that moment when I realized that I’m physically getting older, even if my mind doesn't feel it, my joints do—my next birthday is just 2 weeks away!
  • My adventures at Chicken Stock, the National Poultry Show, and the great viewing adventures of Chicken TV, Chicken Tether-ball, and the whole pecking order thing—remind me to tell you about Daphne







Monday, October 6, 2014

Blog #5--the plan to revise Long Essay 1: somewhere over the rainbow of emotions

OK.  I left you all with a cliffhanger at the end of Blog #4, but I had a good reason, and not just to leave you in suspense!  I am unable to actually write in draft form, so when I write, I just write.  I may tweak something later, but it’s rare that I ever do much changing around of my written work, unless I am directed to do so (by an instructor, for example). 

My problem is like those “medical alert” commercials, the ones for the seniors who live alone—“I've fallen and I can’t get up”—but my problem is “I’m typing my thoughts and I can’t shut up” so I just keep typing.  By the time I looked at the page count, I was way past the 5 pages Dr. Chandler wanted for the draft, so I stopped typing, and that’s where the story ended on Blog #4.


I guess you want to know what happened after I opened the door and said, "Hi," to my friend, who I've known for almost 40 years.  Basically all I got to say was the hi, and she was almost hyperventilating and spewing this, that, and the other thing about her sister, or her mother, and how she couldn't even TALK to me since I had a relationship with her sister and she didn't.  Really?  I was kind of dumbfounded and didn't say anything.  I could feel my blood pressure rise and my face felt hot and was probably turning a lovely shade of red, as it always does when I get excited, angry, or embarrassed.  I just stood there listening, holding the bag that had a beautifully done photo album in it—made by her sister—of the old photos that belonged to the one spewing all of these details at me.  She was standing just inside her door, and I was on the outside.  I started to hand her the bag, but when she started with the hyperventilating and spewing, I held onto the bag, as did she, creating a kind of tug-of-war between us until I let go.  She proceeded to pull herself and the bag inside and ultimately slammed the door in my face.  

For a moment or two I stood there, just staring at her blue front door, with the white ruffled curtains, and wondered what the hell that was all about.  Then I returned to my car, sat in it for a minute or two without starting it and still wondered what just happened.  A few moments later I started the car, backed out her driveway, and drove towards home thinking about what she said and feeling that I was confused by what it had to do with me.  For some reason, she chose to not be friends with me since I was friends with her sister.  I think her exact words were, "I can't be friends with you or talk to you because you can have a relationship with my sister and I can't."  It was Carol's choice to avoid Barbara, not mine, so my choice is to have a relationship with Barbara.  It was as if Carol was green with envy that I could still have a relationship with her Barbara, and Carol didn't want me as a friend anymore.  

When I got home I called her Barbara, just to tell her that I had delivered the photo album to Carol, but also to let her know how Carol had treated me.  Barbara apologized for having to put me through that, but I told her there was no way of knowing how she would react.  The reaction I got was, to say the least, like Carol was a lunatic, and I told Barbara not to worry about it.  Whatever was going on with Carol had nothing to do with us, and Carol would have to work it out on her own.  I also told Barbara that she and I were better off without Carol, since we didn't need that kind of negativity in our lives.  

That evening, as I still pondered the day's events, I had the thought to send Carol a note via Facebook.  I just wanted to send an apology of my own to say that I was sorry if it had upset her to see me, but I was expecting a phone call to tell me when it was convenient to drop off the photos.  Since I didn't get the chance to tell her that when I saw her, I turned to the only other method of "safe" conversation—Facebook messenger—except that when I went to create the message, I found that Carol had already unfriended me on Facebook.  I then thought I might send her a note via snail mail, but it still hasn't come to fruition and probably won't at this point.  It is what it is and I'm not about to tempt fate to get in the middle of a family squabble, no matter the consequences to me. I will miss Carol, as I have for the last several years, but I can't really erase the memories of  her, or anyone else who spent time in my life, who I love, or had once loved.  Barbara and I will just keep the photos of The Brain, The Capable, and The Mouth's good times together in our own albums and have those memories to cherish.


So, after meeting with Dr. Chandler last week, we discussed how the story ended, since she was the one anxious to know what happened after I left the cliffhanger for her to read.  Maybe I didn't tell her everything, but at least we discussed what happened next, and she offered some suggestions.  I guess I am going to do some rearranging of the story, beginning with the end of the story, and then reflecting back on how it all started, perhaps adding a few anecdotes of my shenanigans in my youth along with the struggle of being the monkey in the middle of a tug-of-war.  In this case, I’m the monkey, and the tug-of-war is between the twins.  I'll figure it all out somehow, someway…somewhere over the rainbow of emotions.